Abbi’s Pro Guide to Goodwill Shopping

I love Goodwill.

A lot of people ask me how I find the dedication to Goodwill as hard as I do, and usually they’re surprised that most of my wardrobe comes from a thrift store.

I buy shirts, pants, jeans, dresses, shoes, books and dishes at Goodwill. Whenever I talk to others about Goodwill, I’m always asked what my secret is to finding the clothes that I do. So, I would like to impart my Goodwill strategy with you.

TIP ONE.

First of all, find a Goodwill near you. This is key. If you’re going to brave it on the first Saturday of the month (1/2 off everything in the store!), make sure you dress in comfy, breathable clothes. You will be sweating by the end. Your pores will be filled with Goodwill. Your lungs will ache. I experienced this yesterday, and came away with a swelled throat. Plan accordingly.

TIP TWO.

Before you enter the Goodwill, mentally prepare yourself. You need a strategy. This may sound strange, but I visit the store in exactly the same order every time. Pants, sleeveless, short sleeved, long sleeved women, dresses, long sleeved men, shoes, home goods, books. Every time.

Although this can be adjusted if you specifically need something (which I generally don’t), make sure you hit up the sections in order of importance to you. If you don’t, someone will get the thing you wanted by the time you get there. If you’re all about the reward system (i.e., if you look through the pants first and then reward yourself with the dresses), you will need to reassign your priorities.

I’ve used the reward system. Depending on how busy the store is, someone will probably pick out the one Ann Taylor Loft tags-on lace shorts that should’ve belonged to you. Nothing is more frustrating than seeing another person walk by your aisle holding the perfect item on a hanger. And, it’s probably half off for that color sales tag, too.

TIP THREE.

No one is your friend. That woman you’re eyeing over the aisle is definitely going to find the one thing you can’t leave the store without so you need to be one step ahead of her. It’s every woman for herself. If you smell weakness, prey upon it. If she picks up a shirt you love and then thinks about it and puts it back… You grab that shirt. You can look at it later. Display dominance. Old ladies have a fiery side when it comes to deals. This is not a joke.

TIP FOUR.

If you only partially like it in the store, you sure as heck aren’t going to like it in real life. When you go to new clothing stores, the clothes always look better on you (like maybe +5) than they do in real life. At Goodwill, you’re looking at maybe a +1. Keep that in mind. All of the cute clothes are relatively cute – only cute after you’ve gone through eight racks of itchy sweaters that were last worn in the eighties. Don’t let the Goodwill blinders suck you in – stay strong in your style.

TIP FIVE.

When you approach the rack, you have to commit. Use those toned triceps to pull back the clothes enough that you can see the whole shirt without obstruction. No room? I physically pick up a handful of shirts and move them to another bar so I have room to look. I have pulled muscles this way. It’s part of the turf.

Generally, you can see the fabric of the material that you want to buy. However, there are hidden shirts that need love, too. I flip through every shirt in my size bracket to avoid this.

TIP SIX.

Speaking of size brackets, here’s a pro tip: start with the size you think you are, and then go through the mixed color shirts below and above that size. If they mislabeled the sizes, they’ll probably be in those multicolor sections. If you’ve got more time, I’d also suggest going through the additional colors of the sizes above and below. Yesterday, I found an adorable shirt in the XS section that was actually a large. Don’t give up hope; people make mistakes.

TIP SEVEN.

The Goodwill smell will always be there, and you’ll always feel like having an allergy attack after visiting for over thirty minutes. This is something you need to make peace with.

TIP EIGHT.

Give yourself plenty of time. No one really goes with me to Goodwill, based purely on the fact that I take about two hours and try on a significant portion of the store. I’m slightly jealous of whoever gets my fitting room after me, because I’ve taken the time to comb through all the good stuff.

TIP NINE.

All jokes aside, Goodwill shopping just takes a little bit of dedication. If you’re willing to get your hands dirty – and they may literally get dirty – you can find some great stuff. You can’t lightly brush through the shirts, you need to grasp them firmly. Without this quality, you will fail at Goodwill shopping. My sister hates Goodwill because she doesn’t want to touch clothes that others have warn. This is a surefire way to not find anything worth buying.

TIP TEN.

The shortest line is not always the fastest line. Case in point – yesterday I waited in the “shortest” line for one full hour while people in the longer line cycled through twice as quickly. It was painful to watch. If you’re really concerned about it, watch how fast the sales associate wraps the home goods in paper. This is directly connected to the line’s length.

I hope my tips help you along your Goodwill journey. Happy thrifting!

Which PR Campaign Hooked Us in 2014?

There are many companies that are stepping up their game when it comes to reputation management and public relations. That being said, it was the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge that really rocked our internet feeds this year.

The challenge was a viral hit – individuals would dump buckets of ice/ice water on his/her heads, post a video to social media and tag three friends. The individual would then make a donation to the ALS Association. That’s all it took.

A record-breaking $115 million in donations was recorded for the society, many made by new donors who had not previously donated to ALS. The Ice Bucket Challenge also got celebrities involved – famous stars including One Direction, Justin Bieber, Selena Gomez, Kate Upton, Leonardo DiCaprio, Henry Cavill, and many others also participated.

So why was this campaign so wildly successful? It was a viral movement that involved something somewhat extreme (dumping ice over your head) and making your friends do it, too. It didn’t take promotion from the ALS Association – the campaign drove itself. It cost practically nothing to the ALS Association, and gave us all a warm feeling about doing our part for the community.

It was big, it was for a good cause and it was selfless. The Challenge was covered in the news, and was a trend among youth and teens. Combined with the fact that you could laugh at your friends and replay a video unlimited times, the Challenge brought in 500% more donations than the ALS Association has seen the previous year.

Just like any good campaign, however, the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge had a few critics. Some called out individuals who were posting videos but not actually donating. Others complained that the campaign encouraged us to waste water. Others were injured in the process of making their videos. However, the good significantly outweighed the bad.

Fundraisers like this are changing the way that companies do business. Following the lead of the Ice Bucket Challenge, other nonprofits tried the same model to prompte their causes. Most notably was the “Feelin’ Nuts” campaign trying to encourage men to check themselves for testicular cancer. The campaign showed photos and videos of celebrities grabbing their crotches in public, hashtagged #feelingnuts and uploaded their media to the Feelin’ Nuts official site. However, this did not take off as well as the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge. Why was this similar campaign not as successful? For starters, it was only geared toward men. The ALS campaign included all participants, making it easy to share. Also, participants were not worried about sharing the hashtag “feelingnuts” so that their grandmothers on Facebook could see them. It excluded a large percentage of Internet users. It was clever, yes – but just having a clever slogan does not make a PR campaign.

ALS was fortunate to have the Internet on their side. With the help of humor and celebrities, the campaign raised a remarkable amount of money for the foundation. Sometimes, the best PR campaigns are the ones we don’t push – we let the consumers run with the idea.

What Exactly Do PR People Do?

If you’re not working at a big PR firm, are you even a PR pro?

We hear all about PR professionals getting positions in big PR firms, and most of the examples in our textbooks refer to pros who are working with large organizations in big cities making big waves. However, this is just not realistic for every student – there are simply not enough large PR firms to make it happen.

When I first began studying PR, I did feel this way. I thought that gaining a position with a large firm would be much more prestigious than working in another location. I think this, like I mentioned above, has a lot to do with the examples and work that we are exposed to while studying PR in university. If we tour firms, we tour large firms. If we hear about PR on the news, it’s usually about a large firm working on a large problem.

So what are the other options?

Something that we often overlook is the concept of working in a small, boutique PR firm – just as much a PR firm as one that would supports hundreds of clients. Especially in the South, there are hundreds of boutique PR firms that house 10-15 employees. Some are even smaller. When I interned with a boutique PR firm, Gray PR consisted of two hardworking employees. This is a great option. And, if PR is certainly what the chosen career path, a student could start their own PR firm.

Many organizations have some sort of PR representative, as well. This lessens the cost to the group if a crisis occurs. This would be another viable choice for a student working in PR. There are hundreds of thousands of organizations that would be looking to hire a Communication professional. The term ‘Communication Professional’ is key, here. Sometimes, the job you’re looking for does not come in the neat package of PR professional. It could have a different title. A student would be limiting themselves if they stuck only to jobs that contained “Public Relations” in the title.

Another option for a student studying PR would be working with an NGO or non-profit. Again, these titles might be slightly different than what you were hoping for. However, these organizations need a strong PR professional to lead the charge, as well. This may extend to media relations or other areas of communication; however, having experience in multiple communication areas will only increase your worth to the organization.

Currently, I am hoping to apply the knowledge I have learned in PR to a career in magazine editing. Although these two have seemingly little in common, having the PR background to understand campaigns, writing skills, advertising and crisis control would be only beneficial to an amateur editor.

As I mentioned, it’s getting over the title of PR professional that would be key to growth within a student’s career. Although large PR firms would be a great experience and likely a solid career, the other options cannot be discounted.

Why Weddings Are Better In Your 20s

Weddings can be very frustrating affairs in those awkward few years between college and being married. Either you are the one that gets married and make your friends feel particularly single, or you are the friend that spends a ton on wedding gift registries and finds a seat minus a plus-one at the singles’ table in the corner. Either way, weddings can be hard to navigate.

I am currently sitting in Illinois writing this post instead of getting ready for the bridesmaid luncheon I’m attending today. Fitting, right? Instead of harping on all the hard things about being the single twenty-something at the wedding, however, let’s get down to the perks. We know there are lots of wedding presents and relatives asking you about your love life and costly dresses that you can’t “shorten and wear again.” Regardless, I still love weddings.

1. You get to dress up and look pretty.

What girl doesn’t want the chance to her hair and nails done and put on a gorgeous dress? Just think of all the photos in which you’re gonna look super hot. Build that portfolio, girl.

2. You get to drink and (mostly) not be judged for it. Sometimes it’s even free.

This starts to get shadier the older you get. Enjoy those glasses of wine and dance around by yourself and take off your shoes. Apparently, these aren’t perks that everyone can enjoy. You appreciate that unencumbered-ness as long as you can. Also, how often do you get to have free champagne? Plus, let’s be real – it’ll be easier to recover the next day.

This is pretty self-explanatory. Generally, we’re broke college kids. Or, broke no-job kids. Or, expensive-habits-low-paying-job kids. Just accept this wedding gift from the gods.

4. You have the energy to stay up past 10PM.

This is becoming a toughy for me. But, if it’s already hard now, how bad’s it gonna be in ten years? Staying up late sometimes is good for the soul. When you look back on this moment, you’re not going to remember how long you slept – you’re going to remember the laughs and the crazy dance moves and that ridiculous wedding gift you brought.

5. You get to share in the moments that build you & your friends’ futures.

This is the biggest, right? Chances are, if you’ve been invited to the wedding, you mean something to that person. They’re letting you into what could be the greatest day of their life. Getting to experience such a huge moment – whether its with a plus one or just with friends – is an incredible honor. Be there and be present because you won’t get those moments back. And, you could miss out if you turn that chance down.

So, take all the chances you can to go to weddings and enjoy having those photos to chronicle your memories. Plus, you’ll be able to steal ideas and see what works (and what looks awful anywhere but on Pinterest) for whenever it’s your day. Cheers!

Mexican Cultural Space Differences

As Americans, we are conditioned from a young age to have a very distinct self of self. We are individualistic in our thinking, spanning from our first bedroom to our individual burial lots. Americans, as a society, look to advance the interests of the “I.” In 2006, the Josephson Institute of Ethics conducted a survey of 36,000 students in Los Angeles and asked questions such as, “would you be willing to lie or deceive another individual to advance yourself in your own career?” Not so surprisingly, more than sixty percent of students chose an individualistic approach in answering.

This is a great example of Americans drawing a circle around the “I” in our culture. According to Crouch’s article, Mexicans and Americans: A Different Sense of Space, “when we draw circles around ourselves, we are inside the circle looking out” (Crouch, 2004).

Our sense of space is directly linked to our behavior. As our space is encroached upon, we become increasingly defensive and uncomfortable. We have also associated spatial distances with romance. Crouch mentions that if a Mexican female comes near in conversation to an American male, the male should not take this gesture as a come-on (Crouch, 2004). However, if this was an American female, closing a gap of space could be considered a romantic gesture. This notion of space is embedded into our culture; having an individualistic perspective is rooted in generations of American traditions and family life.

Mexican culture draws its circle very differently. As opposed to thinking of the individual, Mexicans use a collective “we” – drawing a circle around their family. Defining this family space is important; it is the comfort and safety of a home that provides nurturing and support to Mexican children. Crouch writes that “physical closeness goes along with closer families and less sibling rivalry” (Crouch, 2004).

American perception of Mexican culture’s sense of space is usually negative; we “see them piled onto a train” (Crouch, 2004) and make jokes about how many can fit in a car. In reality, Mexican culture encourages this element of together-ness; “Mexicans will always feel more comfortable being part of a group” (Crouch, 2004). Within this sacred space, they are in control of what is going on – not something that can necessarily be promised outside of their homes.

In conjunction with this notion of space, however, comes a ferocity to protect the family circle. Mexicans traditionally have walls between their houses; they are concerned with “sharply demarcating one family’s living space from another family’s” (Crouch, 2004). This is not to say, though, that Mexicans are leery of those around them.

Many families in Mexican culture celebrate unity among their neighbors and host group meals. When a member is accepted into this family circle, he or she is embraced wholeheartedly. When they are in their group space, “they behave according to what that space is dedicated to” (Crouch, 2004).

Understanding the two distinct approaches to space is important to intercultural communication because it explains why a Mexican would approach situations differently than an American. I recall visiting a Mexican restaurant one time and feeling sorry for the Mexican children that had to help out their parents. However, in understanding the cultural perspective of Mexican families, children helping at a restaurant may be considered a family duty. As part of a group dynamic, it only seems natural that the children would also learn the customs and traditions of their family.

American and Mexican concepts of space not only differ in terms of family and personal space, but also in the realm of business communication. In American culture, we encourage employees to work side by side with a team; questions can be asked freely among higher ranking executives and interaction is recommended. This is ironically different from our individualistic concepts of personal space. However, within business, collaboration and creating an equal playing field facilitates a healthy working environment. Employers look specifically at whether or not a prospective employee could work well in a team.

In Mexican culture, the warmth and security of a personal, family space does not translate into the workplace. According to the text, creating a distinct hierarchy between boss and worker is normal for Mexicans. Crouch writes, “the Mexican boss will have an exaggeratedly large office and desk to emphasize the hierarchal distance between himself and his minions. This is his power distance” (Crouch, 2004).

In America, businesses strive to create an environment where lower employees feel just as valued in the company as higher employees. In Mexican culture, businesses rely on the fact that the boss is the “big man” (Crouch, 2004) and deserves a higher level of respect than other employees. In this way, their culture does not facilitate an open door for questions; it would be considered beneath the boss’ skill set.

Understanding the difference between an American’s sense of space in business verses a Mexican’s will surely save business deals. As Mexican’s value their group space immensely, an American must adapt his or her sense of space as not to disrespect their coworker. This would include approaching the Mexican’s space with “a proper greeting, avoiding flamboyant gestures, not shouting, and general circumspection (Crouch, 2004). It is crucial that Americans adjust their individualistic tendencies as not to threaten or “disrupt the harmony of the group” (Crouch, 2004).

This may translate to an American making a conscious effort to preserve the hierarchal status of the Mexican’s business practices by not undercutting his or her authority in front of other employees. It could also mean accepting a personal invitation for dinner, understanding that this welcoming into a Mexican’s personal and protected space is more than just a nicety.

When entering the space of someone from another culture, it is crucial to the relationship that respect is the primary offering. Being sensitive to the perceptions of space held by Mexicans requires Americans to be cooperative in our actions and gracious in communicating within that group. Once we have been welcomed into the circle, cultivating those relationships should be the number one priority.

 Crouch, N. (2004). Mexicans and Americans: A different sense of space. Intercultural Communication: A Reader. (Larry A. Samovar, Richard E. Porter, Edwin R. McDaniel, eds.) 13th edition, USA, 2012, 189-197.

Catcalls vs. Compliments

At college, there are thousands of people all huddled together in one central location. We’ve got men, women, students, athletes, those kids that play the Magic card game in the University Center, the kids that sit in the library to talk, the guy that lets the door close on you when you’re holding hot coffee, the kids that waste all the paper at the printer, and, well, tons of others. Needless to say, there are about 5000 men at the university I attend.

Lately, there’s been tons of attention drawn to catcalling in the media. BuzzFeed recently put out a video called “If We Lived in a World Where Women Catcalled Men” (and it’s hilarious, you should watch it on Buzzfeed).

First of all, what is catcalling? What do we consider a catcall?

I found the following definition on UrbanDictionary (which, obviously, is the be-all-and-end-all truth):

“When a guy gives the wert whirl whistle or yells at a babydoll for the purpose of getting attention and in hopes of a future hookup. This is usually done out of the window of a car. Typically a Pontiac Firebird, or Camaro.”

This is pretty dang accurate. I consider catcalling to be any remark that contains: a moving car; any sort of yell; the terms baby, sugar, sweetheart, honey, or boo; lingering following the remark; elevator eyes; or any question as to “what I’m doing later.” There’s not much wiggle room.

As a female who gets catcalled way more often than I would like to, I would like to draw attention to what I’ve found as the difference between being complimented by a man and being catcalled. This week, I decided to keep track.

It is Thursday. So far this week, I have been catcalled 5 times and complimented twice. So, what’s the difference for me? The first catcall came from a guy stopped at a red light who decided to roll down his window. If my heart starts to race (and not in a good way), it’s a catcall. I felt like I needed a shower after that one.

The next came from two football players that blocked the sidewalk, elevator-eyed me, and said, “Baby, how you doin’?” Just fine, thanks, although I don’t remember being your baby; that must’ve been a different lifetime.

The other three were very similar to these encounters. Personally, I can tell if it’s a catcall by the way I feel following the interaction. This changes from woman to woman. If I feel nervous, scared, anxious, or dirty following our conversation (or lack thereof), I did not appreciate it. For me, these are catcalls.

I decided to write this particular post this morning because today as I was walking down the street, a guy on the sidewalk walking by said in passing, “You’re really beautiful.” And, he kept walking. I smiled. That was the extent of our encounter. As I kept walking, I did not feel victimized or dirty or anxious. I just felt normal (if not a little more confident about the outfit I’d chosen!). There was no aggression, no blocking me from walking, no follow-up questions about my plans for the evening – just a compliment.

Now, if this same person had a different attitude or tone in the way he had said it, I would have reacted very differently. It’s not the words, it’s the sentiment behind them.

As I mentioned before, some women still find interactions like this to be catcalling, and that varies. However, personally, I can appreciate men that are respectful and genuine in their compliments. It came with a more awkward, shy demeanor than a powerful, arrogant Gaston-like vibe.

Another thing to note – I have never been catcalled by a female. This could be for two reasons: 1. We make our remarks always sound like pleasant compliments, regardless of whether or not we actually like what you’re wearing, or 2. We understand what it feels like to be catcalled ourselves, and thus would never put another female through it.

So, what?

Women: We don’t often have to be told to be aware of how things make us feel. However, if catcalling is something that makes you feel uncomfortable (or anxious or nervous or dirty), you need to stick up for yourself. This is something I have a really hard time doing. When I get catcalled, I get all awkward and nervous and I tend to shut down. It’s hard for me to garner up a good comeback (these always come to me like a day later – sad, I know). Understand your worth and what you deserve. Confidence is beautiful – and hopefully that will bring you genuine compliments.

Men: There needs to be some understanding that what you say to a woman is interpreted and analyzed through these lenses. Please do not be aggressive and arrogant. Please do not block our path or box us in or make us feel powerless. If you would like to give a compliment (which, I know a good handful of men that have mastered the art of complimenting a woman!), be respectful. We do not appreciate being yelled out through the window of a car – ever. I don’t care if that girl’s the most beautiful creature you’ve ever seen – pick a different scenario to tell her.

Russia: Cultural Sensitivity vs. Cultural Knowledge

The foundation of a culture is directly correlated with the way a society interacts interpersonally, interprets information, and pursues justice. Within the Russian culture, there are distinctive communication styles that can be linked to a much deeper level of rich history; these influences of the past still impact the work practices, personal communication, and family relationships of modern-day Russian life. According to Mira Bergelson’s article on Russian communication patterns, these styles of life – both with traditional Russian culture and Soviet co-cultures – can be traced back to distinctive qualities that resonate within most Russian communication models.

The six notions presented by Bergelson aid in understanding the need for Russian-specific knowledge and understanding before embarking upon a business venture. Generally, Russian culture supports a mistrust of government; this is directly linked to a “deep-rooted practice of deceiving higher authorities, coloring the truth, and using round-about ways” (Bergelson, 2012). An additional cultural pattern is the common skepticism associated with commercial activities, an overarching sense of cultural pessimism, little respect for set regulations or rules, and – as will be expanded upon further – a “lack of critical thinking and negotiation skills” (Bergelson, 2012).

Cultural sensitivity and cultural knowledge are two separate entities; however, culturally mindful communication involves the integration of the two ideas. Cultural knowledge is the idea of becoming familiar with a culture’s values and belief system, historical context, cultural characteristics, and interaction with members of varying ethnic groups (Adams, 1995).  To take cultural knowledge a step further, cultural sensitivity is an understanding of these unique and varying elements of culture and acknowledging their differences without assuming the values are wrong because they are unlike one’s own interpretations.

An individual obtains first the cultural knowledge – becoming a foundation for their perception of that culture – but learns through a lens of cultural sensitivity. If an interaction was based solely on cultural knowledge, the other member (the Russian) may see these interactions as “rude or imposing, or insecure and indirect, leading to a perception of the person as an unreliable partner or pushy employee” (Thomas, 1984). With the incorporation of cultural sensitivity, the interactions will encourage a mutual respect – both parties understand the relevance of being sensitive to the other’s values.

Cultural-specific knowledge, such as with Russian culture, is crucial to understand before taking an overseas assignment. Interactions with members of another culture, particularly within the workplace, are so firmly based in cultural foundations and traditions that ignorance to the importance of these elements will surely result in negative sentiment and mistrust, if not a loss of business completely. Specifically within Russian and Soviet co-cultures, members value relationships with people and feelings above gain in business. The goal of Russian interactions is always this idea of mutual support and understanding – not only with personal and family relationships, but also in business.

If an American businessman was to approach a Russian with the idea to exclude an employee because the task is better suited elsewhere, the Russian could see this as an attack on the personal relationships that have been built within the company. This could lead to the Russian creating a perception of that American as being untrustworthy or deceptive – in addition to Bergelson’s mention of the Russian’s “mistrust of commercial activities” in general. If these cultural nuances are understood prior to taking an overseas assignment, the Westerner could understand how to approach the situation differently, ensuring a good relationship with his Russian counterpart.

Two very prominent Russian values are emotionality and judgment. According to the text, Russians encourage the expression of emotion and value attention to the feelings of others. Directly linked to the idea of emotionality is the concept that “relationships are more important than contextual reality” (Bergelson, 2012). Because so much weight is given to appreciating the feelings of others, work relationships thrive when employees feel emotionally valued and connected. Russian culture, for this reason, is full of “active emotional verbs”  (Bergelson, 2012) and culturally loaded words. When a Westerner is interacting with a Russian in this capacity, it is important that the person or employee is put before the gain of the task – a concept that is strange to business in America.

The second value, judgment, is one that is seen to Americans as a negative quality – one that American society associates with being close-minded. To Russians, however, judgmental statements are spoken out of a desire to create a closer, more loyal connection in relationships. Members of Russian culture expect these moral evaluations, and consider it “appropriate to treat others in the same way” (Bergelson, 2012). Americans, on the other hand, tend to look at moral judgments as personal attacks, and condition themselves against passing judgments towards others. For this reason, it is crucial for an American interacting with a Russian to not take judgments as offensive; rather, a Russian judgment demonstrates a desire for mutual respect and deeper connection.

Russian and traditional Soviet co-cultures also support the notions of fatalism and irrationality – qualities that can be traced back culturally to authoritarian structures of government and the sentiment that the Russian people lack control. Fatalism is an attitude carried by most Russians, and is the idea that the future is fixed and unchangeable; in this mindset, Russian people lack control over the world and its events. This is starkly different from the classic American dream mindset; Western people tend to believe that the world is full of opportunity and hope. Addressing this point of view, American-Russian interactions should be pursued without overwhelming the Russian counterpart with potentials and undeterminable factors.

The model of irrationality is also engrained in Russian culture, which is a stark contrast to the general American view of positivism. Rather than “[relying] on objective methods of analysis and logic” (Bergelson, 2012), Russians lack critical thinking capacities and tend to believe that “things can go wrong… at any moment” (Bergelson, 2012).  Coming back to the idea of emotionality, Russians approach business rather with emotion, believing that “relationships are more important than results” (Bergelson, 2012). When interacting with Russians, Westerners would need to understand that using an analytical approach might not be relatable or the best option for their foreign coworkers.

According to the text, “spending time and effort to analyze what the behavior may denote and how it relates to other facets of Russian culture, can often provide insight into problems of cross-cultural organizational communication and group dynamics” (Bergelson, 2012). These varying Russian values all affect the perceptions that the people would have towards Westerners, and directly impact how business is done. In understanding how Russian culture views the world around them, Westerners can express cultural sensitivity within workplace interactions.

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Bergelson, M. (2012). Russian cultural values and workplace communication patterns.

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Thomas, J. (1984). Cross-cultural discourse as ‘unequal encounter’: Towards a pragmatic analysis. Applied Linguistics 5(3): 227-235.

The Quirks of An Overachiever

I’ve been an overachiever since first grade. We had a “Reading Raceway” track on the wall, where you moved a little car around a colorful wheel based on how many books you read. You better believe my little car was always the first in line, and I would read and read just to keep up my lead.

See, it started early. I’ve always had a desire to prove my competence. Throughout my school years, I read extra, wrote extra, worked longer, and edited more. I was THAT kid. It was not something of which I was proud. I would never, ever share my report cards like some other kids. I’d cover up test scores, ruin curves, and be ashamed of papers I did really well on. And, looking back, that’s not how I should’ve felt.

I’ve deliberately tried to overcome this overachieving nature. I have fought against it throughout my entire college career, specifically trying to procrastinate on papers and give someone else a chance to lead the group project. When a 6-8 page paper I wrote turned into a 25 page one, I realized even I couldn’t overlook how sickeningly overachieving I am.

But, I’ve come to accept that this is who I am. I live and die by my planner, I write way too much, and I pick out spelling mistakes in publications. It’s just who I am.

These are some overachieving quirks I’ve come to realize about myself.

1. Overachieving means you plan things way earlier than normal people, so much so that no one can plan a meeting with you because they don’t know where they’ll be in May of 2015.

I live and die by my planner. I will not remember anything unless it’s been written in my beloved book. I once said that if my planner was thrown over a bridge, you may as well throw me over as well. And, it may be color coordinated. Don’t judge.

2. People will be angry at you for your overachieving. You’ll just have to get over it.

Yes, I may suck up occasionally by contributing my best work. However, it would be more work for me to not try than it would be for me to overachieve – so just let me be a pain in the ass. Besides, you could overachieve if you really wanted to.

3. Overachieving doesn’t need to come across as bossy.

I’ve had to work on this. It’s difficult to try and take a leadership position, wanting to accomplish something, without someone feeling as though you’re trying to take all the control. However, it’s possible to overachieve in a group setting without being bossy. First of all, you have to be open to the ideas of others. Often times, overachievers have a specific way of doing something that seems to them as the most efficient route. However, a good leader listens. Maybe you can overachieve in other ways. Secondly, acknowledge that you do not know it all/cannot do it all, and delegate. Don’t overachieve alone.

4. You cannot control the actions of others.

Kinda goes along with the last one, eh? This has been particularly frustrating for me when it comes to timeliness. I like it when people are on time, and I take it personally if someone skips a meeting with me. You cannot control what others are going to do, so don’t try. Brush it off, let it go, and overachieve elsewhere.

These are just a few things I’ve learned along my overachieving journey. Biggest thing? Don’t be overbearing. I do not know it all, nor do I necessarily have the best ideas. But, I will always do the maximum number of pages in a paper and I’ll always highlight in my planner and I’ll put a birthday sticker on your special day – these, I am not sorry for.

You’re Only As Awkward As You Think You Are

What have I learned as a PR intern? You’re only as awkward as you think you are.

If you know me, you’ll know that I am a self-proclaimed awkwardite who creates somewhat awkward situations unintentionally and often holds eye contact for that extra second where it becomes awkward.

As a communication student, however, it’s very important to have a certain degree of communication skills (literally, it’s a degree in communication) to be successful in your career. Here are a few tidbits of unconvential advice I’ve scraped together in my summer internship.

1. When you shake someone’s hand, especially the CEO of a company, don’t pull a wet noodle.

This has caught me off guard before. When you’re not mentally prepared for a handshake, you end up either putting your thumb in the wrong place – which gets REALLY weird – or you end up limply shaking their hand. Neither are positive things that demonstrate you’re a serious professional.

So, if you think about the handshake before diving in, it won’t catch you by surprise. Eye contact, firm (but not Hulk Hogan), and brief. Don’t force it; let it be a natural part of your communication. By the end of the summer, I finally had a good handshake. It takes time.

2. “See ya!” is not an appropriate way to say farewell at a work function, even if they’re around your age.

Boy was this a painful one for me. I thought about that “see ya” for weeks after it happened, cringing at the fact that I chose those words to leave a (not-so) lasting impression on communication professionals. I thought, why do I have to be so awkward? And, I exaggerated that scenario in my mind so much so that I pretty much concluded I should never speak again. You’re only as awkward as you think you are.

This is where the second chance comes in! I hope that you, also, will receive a second chance at the “see ya” nightmare. When I saw this same person again at a different meeting, I made sure that I left them with a pleasant, “Nice to see you again!” I’d also avoid the “Have a great life!” and “Catch ya on the flip side!” scenarios.

3. Even when you don’t think you’ll need an intern notebook, you’ll need an intern notebook.

I carried around a lined notebook for the first month and a half of my internship, and never cracked it open. Well, I think I may have doodled on the front cover at one point, but I never actually took notes. One day, I was heading to a meeting and thought, “Nah. I’ve never used that notebook before, and I’ll probably never need it again.” And, guess what was the first thing I was told? “Abbi, can you take some notes?”

I put myself in the awkward situation of having to say, “I don’t have any paper.” I didn’t even – the shame! – have a writing utensil because it was still attached to my notebook. Do not be the intern without paper! In addition, do not take notes on your cellphone. It looks like you’re texting, which in turn gives the impression that you’re not paying attention to what’s going on and not taking your job seriously.

4. Find the balance of introducing yourself to networking connections but not being an overbearing, desperate student.

This is a tough one. I’ve attended various meetings this summer with many people whose salaries are probably worth more than my life. I’ve met a few in passing, and some even remember who I am. “Aren’t you the girl that wore the purple tights?”

Once you’ve met someone, what is the appropriate relationship to have with them? I’ve spent my fair share of meetings waiting on the side for something to happen, someone to communicate with. And, in retrospect, this isn’t how it should work.

Obviously, I wouldn’t suggest waltzing up to the company President and asking him questions about his life while he’s in the middle of an interview. However, it’s okay for you to show interest. Ask how long she’s worked with the company, what he loves most about his job, or if he has any advice for an intern trying to make an impression. Generally, people want to be engaged in conversation instead of awkwardly standing around. I wish I would have figured this one out a little sooner in my internship.

5. Remember the name.

When you’re introduced, make an actual effort to remember to whom you are speaking. It will save you hours of unsuccessful internet searching. I met this woman at one of the meetings I attended who works in traffic engineering. She seemed genuinely interested in me and my work (and as an intern, you take what you can get!) and also happened to have a great professional fashion sense.

I met this woman probably on three separate occasions, and each time she remembered my name and reminded me of hers.

(Side bar: DO NOT ever act disinterested when someone is talking to you, even unintentionally. If they’re taking time to talk to an intern, you take that opportunity and you RUN WITH IT. WHOLEHEARTEDLY.)

Anyways, so I thought about this particular connection one night and realized I still had no idea what her name was – even though it had been spoken to me about four times in conversation. And, I very well couldn’t demonstrate to my supervisor that I had been irresponsible in my name-remembering! So, I did what any good 21st century communication student would do and googled everything I could remember about this woman.

Apparently the Google odds were not in my favor that evening, because I found absolutely nothing as to who she may be. Plus, it’s very difficult to find someone without their name to go on. Finally, I gave up.

Again, praise the Lord for second chances! I saw this same woman at a meeting I attended last night, and (without specifically addressing her by name of course) made some small talk. Then, miracle of miracles, I heard her introduce herself to someone else. You better believe I will NEVER forget that woman’s name.

Make it easy on yourself and just remember their name the first time. Don’t tune out that little section of the conversation, because it will bite you in the tushy later. I could’ve saved myself many an awkward, “I’m Amy, remember? We’ve met at the past three meetings?” if I just had taken the time to remember her name.

Aside from your own personal embarrassment, remembering someone’s name demonstrates that you are assigning value to who they are. If you care enough to make that connection, you need to care enough to remember the most basic information about who a person is.

These are five small things that have made a huge impact on my perception of communication in practice. If you are confident in who you are, and the skills you have to offer, you will be much more pleasant as an intern (and, a professional!). Don’t wait on the sidelines for the communication to come your way – pursue it yourself. After all, isn’t that what sets us apart?